A Nigerian Pastor's Wife Tells Ladies to Find Out the Size of Their Fiancé's 'Gbola' Before Marriage

Victor Nwoko
Apr 17
2 min read

Princess Jemaimah, a Nigerian pastor’s wife and practicing lawyer, has advised women who are engaged to be bold in asking their fiancés specific and necessary questions related to sex — including penis size — in order to avoid future marital challenges. Her comments, shared on April 16, emphasized the importance of sexual sincerity during courtship while still maintaining sexual purity.

The evangelist explained that her advocacy for open conversations around sexual compatibility stems from personal experience and professional observation. Recalling her upbringing in the Deeper Life Bible Church, she noted that sex was a taboo topic, even in women's seminars. Despite this silence, many women, including leaders, were raising large families, suggesting that the subject was simply ignored, not irrelevant.

As a lawyer, Jemaimah said she has witnessed numerous divorces rooted in unresolved sexual issues, many of which could have been avoided through honest conversations before marriage. According to her, countless individuals have reached out via social media seeking help for sex-related marital problems, which she believes are among the leading causes of divorce.

In her post, she emphasized the need for what she calls “sexual sincerity in courtship,” encouraging women to ask seven crucial questions while still upholding their values of sexual purity. These include:

What is your body count (number of past sexual partners)?

At what age did you begin having sex?

Do you have any history of STDs or erectile dysfunction?

Do you enjoy sex or anticipate enjoying it within marriage?

Are there any common marital sexual acts you’re uncomfortable with, such as oral sex?

How frequently do you expect to have sex — daily, weekly, etc.?

What is the size of your penis?

Jemaimah stressed that the seventh question is particularly important and often overlooked. She recounted her own near-marriage experience with a man who had a micro penis — a fact he initially concealed. It was only after persistent prayer and deeper conversations that he disclosed the truth, prompting her to call off the engagement.

She urged men facing sexual health challenges to be honest with their partners during courtship, arguing that concealing such information is deceptive and damaging in the long term. “It’s better you tell her and she makes an informed decision. Marrying her with such dark secrets is tantamount to deception,” she said.

The lawyer also addressed virgins who may feel the topic doesn’t apply to them, warning that sexual incompatibility can still arise after marriage. She highlighted the fact that many individuals who married as virgins now struggle with adultery due to unmet sexual needs that were never discussed beforehand.

Her core message was clear: open, honest, and prayerful conversations about sex during courtship can help couples make informed choices and protect their marriages from unnecessary strife.

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